Dear Coleen,
I am a man in my thirties seeking your advice regarding a situation involving a married female friend in our social circle. Despite being part of a close-knit group of friends that includes her and her husband, I have always sensed an underlying attraction between us. However, I want to make it clear that I am committed to my wife and have no intention of straying.
During a recent group trip to a Greek island, the woman, who had been consuming alcohol, made advances towards me in a bar. She openly expressed her attraction and flirted with me, which made me uncomfortable given our respective marital statuses. I managed to redirect her attention and later learned from another friend that her marriage has been experiencing difficulties.
I am torn about whether to address the situation with her, especially since my priority is to avoid any misconceptions that could arise should my wife find out. I am concerned about maintaining transparency in my marriage.
Your insight on how to handle this delicate situation would be greatly appreciated.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
Coleen advises that the woman may have acted impulsively due to intoxication or embarrassment. She suggests expressing concern about the woman’s marriage subtly and then distancing yourself socially for a while. Coleen also encourages reflecting on your own feelings towards this friend and avoiding situations that may lead to similar incidents in the future.
Remember, it’s crucial to maintain clear boundaries and communicate your lack of interest if faced with a similar situation again.