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Dear Coleen
After a couple of years together, my boyfriend’s actions deeply hurt me. He formed a close bond with another woman, and I strongly believe they were on the brink of an affair before I intervened.
Although they didn’t engage in physical intimacy, their extensive flirting and private meetings for drinks hinted at a more serious intent. The content of their messages only reinforced my suspicions.
Despite the pain, I chose to forgive him and work on our relationship. However, recent events have reignited my doubts.
During a recent work trip, he spent several days away, triggering memories of his past interactions with the same woman from work. His insistence that the trip was solely work-related was contradicted by social media posts depicting partying and clubbing. When I confronted him, his defensive reaction and dismissal of my concerns made me realize I no longer wish to continue the relationship.
Despite his desire to salvage the relationship, I have come to terms with moving forward independently. This newfound clarity contrasts with my previous efforts to rebuild what was broken. Is this a normal reaction?
Coleen’s Advice
Trust, once broken, is challenging to restore. Honesty and transparency are crucial in rebuilding trust, and any deception can undermine the process.
Your sudden shift in feelings is understandable. The recent events have highlighted your lingering doubts and the realization that complete trust may never be regained. Trust your instincts and acknowledge that sometimes, despite efforts to reconcile, moving on is the best decision.
Recognize that letting go after a betrayal, even when reconciliation is desired, can be the right choice.
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